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The Heart of the Matter

Have you ever wondered why most people are unable to stick to their new year resolutions? Year in, year out, we set goals for ourselves which we are unable to meet. We're good in the beginning but after a while, we wander off the path which we marked out for ourselves.

One of the things I have come to realize is that the reason for our inconsistency and weakness in this area lies on the inside. Most of the things we see on the outside that we want to change, actually started on the inside as some form of trauma. If we desire change, we have to start by looking inward.

To sum it up, the heart of the matter, is a matter of the heart.

We try to make changes to our lifestyles or our habits from the outside in, instead of from the inside out. We dress our symptoms with cosmetics instead of doing the inner work to heal.

Inner work starts with spending time with yourself and asking some hard questions:

  • Why do I feel this way?

  • Why am I thinking about what I am thinking about right now?

  • Why do I need to make this change?, etc.

When you ask, listen to the answers that bubble up from the inside and be honest with yourself. Then resolve to be better. Not to do better. But to become better. Because we are human beings first and not human doings. Once we become better, it becomes easier to do!


  • We're in the middle of March but it's not too late to make changes to your habits or your lifestyle.

  • What questions do you need to start asking today to become the person you need to be in order to achieve your goals? Ask those questions in your moments of solitude and make the changes you need to make in your life based on the answers you get.

You've got this!

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Mar 21, 2023
Rated 5 out of 5 stars.

Nice reminder we can still do it and it’s not too late to start

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